Do You Ever Just Feel Stuck Up Against A Wall?

Do you ever just feel stuck up against a wall? Let’s call this personal gridlock…


We all get to a place at some point where we are stuck and need direction on which way to go. Whether it is a project, interest, situation, etc., we all need guidance at some point, and if you think you can do it on your own, you really need help. I received several messages in response to a post that I recently made checking in to see if I was ok, or what was going on?

I am fine…

I am just trying to turn off the gridlock alert and figure out what street I should go down. This is not a problem, it is a process.

This process is called LIFE!

My frustration with the process is part of this thing called personal growth. Sometimes it presents itself like gridlock traffic and you are stuck in the midst of chaos and need to find a way to escape the madness. I have learned more than ever, that this continuum is for the long haul so get used to it. Sometimes the ride is easy and sometimes you are backed up for a long ride. Most of the traffic being caused by rubber necking to see what others are looking at. Traffic in any form is always a frustration for me. I am not good at dealing with it.

It has been a year of transition with one child in college and the youngest in high school. Now I can say “Been there, done that!” and know what that means and how it feels.  Like so many other milestones and major events, you come out on the other side with a few battle wounds and sometimes maybe a little beaten up. But none the less, you get to the other side.

I wanted to share some of the lessons that I have learned this past school year from my personal gridlock. Maybe some of them can be helpful and get you unstuck and moving in the right direction….

You will get used to the new normal…

They will be fine!

If you have something to say, say it … nicely and continue to say it if need be. Even if you have to scream, still be nice, loud is ok.

Even if you say it or act on it (over and over and over, you get the point) you might not get the outcome that you want (that’s life), but still…be nice.

Learn to remove yourself from frustration, it is possible. I just haven’t learned that yet. This is at the top of my to do list.

Find creative outlets for enjoyment and try new things.

Alone time is necessary.

People change, it’s ok. Don’t take it personally.

You will not look, feel, or act the same as you get older even if you feel like the eternal 20 year old in your mind. You are not, but that’s ok. Getting older is reality, it beats the alternative.

Leaving your house without your phone is something that should be done regularly. Thinking that there might be a major catastrophe that you are needed for in the couple of unplugged hours off the radar is exhausting.

Get involved, but don’t get taken advantage of. Being a part of something bigger than yourself is supposed to be rewarding.

As my son says, “The struggle is real”, and it is!

Things are not as they seem more often than you think.

People just want to be validated!

Music makes most things more manageable… listen and listen loud!

Just to clarify, especially for those of you who know my inner workings, this is what I have learned. Don’t hold me to all of it, all of the time. The do as I say, not as I do is not what I am proposing, but these are all lessons that I have learned that I hope to live by. They really do make sense. I can leave my phone, be nice and try new things, it is the frustration that gets frustrating. I am going to try my best and I hope you find something in my list that will resonate with you and open up your gridlock. I would love to hear lessons that you have learned this past school year. Everyone should finish the year with more knowledge than when we started….

6 months in to this blog I would like to send a shout out to the Brazil supporters… Would love to hear from you.

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